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So long as you are still worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.
Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself.
from Conversations with God, by Neale Donald Walsch (see works by Neale Donald Walsch )
Albert Einstein once reported, “Great spirits have always encountered voilent opposition from mediocre minds.” If you want to achieve your own greatness, to climb your own mountains, you’ll have to use yourself as your first and last consultant.
from Pulling Your Own Strings, by Wayne Dyer (see works by Wayne Dyer )
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
Mark Twain (1835-1910) American writer and humorist (see works by Mark Twain )
Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves.
Gene Fowler
Accepting what others see as your strengths is crucial to your continued growth. Compliments are a gift. They are an opportunity for you and another person to connect in a powerful, positive way. How did you handle the last compliment directed at you? Did you accept it?
from Fearless Loving: 8 Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate and Relate, by Rhonda Britten (see more works by Rhonda Britten )
We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882) (see works by Longfellow )
There would be very little to dislike in other people if we refused to bring to them all of our own judgements and petty grievances.
from Teach Only Love, by Gerald G Jampolsky (see works by Gerald Jampolsky )
You will find it easier to accept contrary views, knowing that you are not defined by anything or anyone external to yourself.
from You’ll See It When You Believe It, by Wayne Dyer (see works by Wayne Dyer )
Remember, it is not the snake bite that kills, but the venom which circulates afterwards that is fatal. Do not let the snake bite of another person release any venom inside of you. You can control its entry and you are responsible for every thought in your mind.
from Megaliving!, by Robin S Sharma (see works by Robin Sharma )
People are not their behaviors.
from Awaken the Giant Within, by Anthony Robbins (see more works by Anthony Robbins )
What’s more important - your goal, or others’ opinions of your goal?
from Do It, by John Roger and Peter McWilliams (see works by John Roger and Peter McWilliams )
Refuse to be outer focused. That means your life is decided by reactions to the outside world versus inner focused where intuition and intention are the guiding forces determining your future.
Using the words ‘they think’ or ‘they say’ puts power into the hands of individuals outside of your control.
Instead say what do ‘I think’.
from Fearless Living, by Rhonda Britten (see works by Rhonda Britten )
In the past, your self-image was formed by what you believed others thought of you. The essential question you asked about any aspect of your body was, “What thought will the person who looks at me hold in his mind?” And you viewed your body through what you imagined the contents of his mind to be. Rarely did you ask, “What thought do I keep in my mind?” because you did not believe that this question related to how lovely you felt. But you are lovely, and your attempts to second-guess what others think and your efforts to change their minds only cause you to doubt yourself. Do not believe you must constantly tinker with your body, its appearance, its standing, or its health, in order to change what you think you are. You will know the beauty of simple giving when you no longer allow your thoughts to curve back at you. To think gentle thoughts about yourself, you need only think gently.
from A Book of Games, by Hugh Prather (see works by Hugh Prather )
The best leaders collect information widely, listen to everybody, and then decide by themselves.
Edwin Bearss, Civil War historian
When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, "I have nothing to say to that." The world cries, "Give me your agreement or your disagreement but whatever you do, don't ignore me!"
Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have higher things to think about and darkness's anguish is not your concern. Every "success" darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, "I have nothing to say to that!"
As The Daily Guru said once, "The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance." Work with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very insignificant until you react to them.
The Daily Guru
Listen to others as if they are telling you the truth, ask questions when you aren't clear, and allow others the room to have different feelings than you. No more assigning hidden motives, prejudging and cutting people off before separating fact from fiction.
from Fearless Loving: 8 Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate and Relate, by Rhonda Britten (see more works by Rhonda Britten )
Facts come from heaven, opinions come from earth. Think about it!!!
The Daily Guru
A man met the Buddha on the street one day and began to call him mean and ugly names. Buddha listened quietly and thoughtfully until the man ran out of epithets, and had to pause for breath.
"If you offer something to a man and he refuses it, to whom does it belong?" asked Buddha.
The spiteful man replied, "It belongs, I suppose, to the one who offered it."
Then Buddha said, "The abuse and vile names you offer me, I refuse to accept."
The man turned and walked away."
Caring what others think about us is normal. The desire to belong is basic to human nature. But in order to feel like you truly belong, you must accept yourself for who you are. This is critical to Fearless Living.
from Fearless Loving: 8 Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate and Relate, by Rhonda Britten (see more works by Rhonda Britten )
It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by the dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy course; who at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly; so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt (see works by and about Theodore Roosevelt )
It is always easier to hear an insult and not retaliate than have the courage to fight back against someone stronger than yourself; we can always say we’re not hurt by the stones others throw at us, and it’s only at night - when we’re alone and our wife or our husband or our school friend is asleep - that we can silently grieve over our own cowardice.
from The Devil and Miss Prym, by Paulo Coelho (see works by Paulo Coelho )
Nothing will ever be attempted, if all possible objections must first be overcome.
Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English author (see works by Samuel Johnson )
To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) American publisher (see works by Elbert Hubbard )
We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.
Anais Nin (see works Anais Nin )
The influence of each human being on others in this life is a kind of immortality.
John Quincy Adams (see works by John Quincy Adams )
The nobler sort of man emphasizes the good qualities in others, and does not accentuate the bad. The inferior does the reverse.
Confucius (551-479 BC) Chinese philosopher (see works by and about Confucius )
You are in a partnership with all other human beings, not a contest to be judged better than some and worse than others.
Wayne Dyer (see works by Wayne Dyer )
No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work.
Mother Teresa (1910-1997) Albanian missionary (see works by and about Mother Teresa )
Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.
Norman Vincent Peale (see works by Norman Vincent Peale )
If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears.
Glenn Clark
Conclusions and perspectives we share about people, or any situation we encounter tell others as much about us as they do what we are describing. What we notice must have a point of resonance within us or we wouldn't notice it at all. We don't have to abandon our points
of view to expand our understanding. When we limit our perspectives, we limit our opportunities to be all that we are intended to be.
Gail Pursell Elliott, The Dignity and Respect Lady (see works by Gail Pursell Elliott )
Once the game is over, the king, queen and the pawn go back into the same box.
Italian proverb (see more Italian proverbs )
We cling to our own point of view, as though everything depended on it. Yet our opinions have no permanence; like autumn and winter, they gradually pass away.
Chuang Tzu
Have compassion for everyone you meet,
even if they don't want it.
What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism
is always a sign of things no ears have heard,
no eyes have seen.
You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets
the bone.
Miller Williams
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